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How to take nothing personally
Try this once—and you’ll never go back...
Justin Mecham
July 12, 2025
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Use my sheet to find more lines to keep your peace - even when others don’t.
Peace comes from the choices you don’t explain.
Power comes from the reactions you don’t give.
The moment you stay calm - you reclaim yourself.
Today we are going to help leaders master this by using:
‘Take Nothing Personally - How to Stay Calm and Keep Your Peace'.
Let’s dive in!
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How To Use The 5 Rs of Self-Control in Real Work Moments
1. You’re Blindsided in a Meeting
Scenario: Your boss questions your work in front of everyone.
Recognize:
Feel the heat rise.
That’s your emotional spike, not the full truth.
Resist:
Instead of firing back or shrinking, sit still.
Keep your body calm and your breathing steady.
Reframe:
Tell yourself, “This is about the project, not about me.”
Reset:
Take a slow breath, jot a quick note.
You’re buying time.
Respond:
Say, “I’d love to circle back on that after this meeting so I can give a better update.”
Don’t fill silence. Let your calm be the loudest thing in the room.
2. You Get a Passive-Aggressive Email
Scenario: A coworker sends a snarky message implying you dropped the ball.
Recognize:
Notice your chest tighten or your fingers rush to type back.
Pause here.
Resist:
Don’t reply yet.
Step away from the screen if you need to.
Reframe:
“This might be their stress showing up. I don’t need to wear it.”
Reset:
Draft a reply in notes first.
Then walk away for 10 minutes.
Respond:
Later, send: “Thanks for flagging that. Let’s connect to make sure we’re on the same page moving forward.”
Ask to meet live. Tone gets lost in text—clarity happens in conversation.
3. A Peer Gets Credit for Your Work
Scenario: In a group presentation, someone takes credit for something you did.
Recognize:
You feel the flush.
It’s your ego—and that’s okay. Just don’t act from it.
Resist:
Don’t interrupt or point fingers.
Let the moment pass.
Reframe:
“This isn’t about who wins—it’s about the long game and how I show up.”
Reset:
Give yourself an anchor phrase like “I know what I did.”
Respond:
Later, say privately: “Hey, I noticed that part of the project was mentioned without my name. Can we make sure we’re aligned going forward?”
Recognition isn’t always loud. Your quiet confidence is part of your reputation.
4. Your Idea Gets Shut Down Abruptly
Scenario: You share a creative idea in a brainstorm, and someone immediately shoots it down.
Recognize:
That sting is your need to be heard.
It’s valid—but don’t act from it.
Resist:
No sarcasm, no defense.
Just stay neutral.
Reframe:
“Maybe they didn’t understand it yet. It’s not a no—it’s a ‘not yet.’”
Reset:
Nod, stay calm. Use silence to stay in control.
Respond:
Later in the same meeting, say: “I hear you. What if we looked at it from this angle instead?”
Don’t shrink—steer. People follow calm thinkers in storms.
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Try shrinking it down to this:
“If someone asked me this at dinner,
what’s the shortest way I’d explain it?”
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Step 1: Pick Your Trigger
Think of a moment that usually gets under your skin.
What’s something small that tends to knock you off center?
A short reply that feels cold
Someone interrupting you
A coworker’s tone that sounds sharp
A vague comment that makes you second-guess yourself
Write it down as one line:
“Today, I want to handle [insert situation] with more calm.”
Step 2: Spot Your Test Moment
Look at your day.
Where might that kind of moment show up?
You’re not waiting for a perfect storm—just a simple interaction.
A check-in with a teammate
A reply to feedback
A small disagreement or a missed detail
All you need is one spot where you can practice staying steady instead of taking it personally.
Step 3: Plan One Move Ahead
Before the moment, ask:
“What’s one calm action I can take if that happens?”
Then choose your move:
Pause before speaking
Ask one clear question
Say “I’ll circle back on that”
Remind yourself: “This isn’t about me.”
That’s your only job today. One move. Simple and strong.
Step 4: Watch What Shifts
After the moment, ask:
Did you hold your calm just a little longer?
Did you give yourself time instead of reacting fast?
Did the other person shift when you didn’t react?
Write down one sentence about what you noticed.
Doesn’t have to be big—just real.
Step 5: Lock It In
At the end of the day, say:
“Today, I stayed more steady when [describe situation].”
If you’re up for it, add:
“Tomorrow, I’ll try that same move in a new moment.”
AI Prompt: “Act as a calm-thinking coach. Help me prepare for a real-life moment where I tend to take things personally at work. Use the 5 Rs of Self-Control to guide me.
Here’s what I need help with:
My Trigger: [Insert your common trigger, e.g., “A teammate cuts me off in meetings”]
The Situation: [Insert where this might happen today, e.g., “We have a team call this afternoon”]
What I Usually Do: [Insert your normal reaction, e.g., “I shut down or feel annoyed”]
What I Want Instead: [Insert your goal, e.g., “I want to stay calm and respond clearly”]
Give me:
A short plan using the 5 Rs (Recognize, Resist, Reframe, Reset, Respond) to guide me through this moment.
1 phrase I can say to myself in the moment to stay steady.
1 phrase I can say out loud if I choose to speak.
A reflection question to ask myself after the moment.
Keep the wording simple. I just want to feel a little more steady and in control today.”
Not everything needs a reply.
Not everything is about you, even when it feels that way.
The more you learn to pause, the more control you have.
Peace isn’t something you find, it’s something you protect.
Staying calm isn’t for them—it’s for you.
Until next time and with lots of love,
Justin
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Book To Read:
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